If perception is reality, you are responsible for shaping it.

We often hear phrases like “perception is reality” that contradict other phrases like “things aren’t always what they seem.” What do they mean though? And which is more accurate? There are different schools of thought on the matter from realists, to optimists, to absolutists. Each of those hold principles that will force you to interpret the phrases differently. Allow me to make an argument without defining it by any particular title. First, perception. Perception is defined as the ability to see, hear, or become aware of something through the senses. With that, perception is far more than just what you see. Instead, how you interpret your experience with, and perspective of, a person or situation will shape how you perceive it to be. Perception is how we understand things to be. When you consider perception as your […]

About your legacy… and what is legacy exactly?

When I did a search to define legacy it gave me something I wasn’t expecting. Legacy is defined primarily as a gift, particularly money or personal possession, that is willed to another. I thought that was inheritance so of course I had to look that word up to. Inheritance is poorly defined but is considered synonymous with legacy or endowment. When we discuss Dr Martin Luther King Jr or the influential ancestors of our family, we tend to talk about their legacy more than their possessions. So what is legacy exactly? And how does it relate? What is legacy? I heard someone describe the difference as: Inheritance is something you leave to someone; Legacy is something you leave in someone. I think that saying embodies more of how we feel about what legacy is. It is […]

Cold Turkey. How to quit something you love.

How in the world do you quit doing something you love? For some, the question is, “why would you quit?” I can answer that. This isn’t the article on how to quit smoking but if that’s how you got here… read on. Every artist, athlete, and entrepreneur faces a time when they have to decide to push forward against all odds, accept that this is where they will peak, or quit. You, too, have likely had something that you wanted to pursue and either became distracted by life or forced to move on. Maybe it was starting your own website, or writing that book you’ve been pondering, or planning that vacation. There comes that time when we are faced with the seemingly impossible choice of continue or quit. Quit?!?! Good grief… I think, and have […]

The learning triangle ~ And the advantage of understanding it.

Sure, there is a learning curve (and we will talk about a really interesting one in a few weeks). But what about the learning triangle? What if we could examine the way information moves with a wide base and a narrow point. There is an example I recall from years ago but I can’t remember who taught it. I’m not going to allow that to stop me from showing you though… You like volcanos? (For entertainment and dramatic effect, read this in that movie preview voice) Deep in the belly of the Earth, hot molten rock swirls around looking for a way to get out. The forces build. The magma makes its way toward the surface finding it’s way to the tallest volcano. It hits the base of the volcano, a width that no one […]

Why what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger

“That which does not kill us, makes us stronger.” – Friedrich Nietzsche But what does that really mean? And how am I stronger? I don’t know if you’ve ever been in one of those situations where it seemed like you wouldn’t make it out. For some people it’s a real life physical situation whereas others may experience financial, emotion, or mental situations that seem hopeless. There are a few things at play when we face those situations. Some of which we aren’t even aware of. Limiting beliefs A great majority of people have beliefs about themselves or their situations that limit their idea of what is possible. These limiting beliefs not only remove possible outcomes, they remove the effort toward those outcomes. I am a quitter; I’ve known that about myself for a long time. Interestingly […]

Intention vs Expectation ~ Their difference may be their connection.

As I write this, my intention is to share something valuable and insightful that you will easily want to share. And yet “the best-laid plans of mice and men often go awry” – Robert Burns, To A Mouse (1786) In the poem by Robert Burns, he is essentially crafting an apology to a mouse who’s home he destroyed while ploughing his field. From the sounds of it, he never expected to hurt the mouse or even see the mouse. He just intended to prepare his field. But what if he could have expected it? Intention Intention is unfortunately one of those words that is defined by using the word in the definition; kinda crazy. At it’s core, I believe intentions are important in dreaming up the life that we want to have and the goals […]

What can baseball teach you about life? ~ Even if you’ve never played

Baseball is a sport of chess… but, if you’re not a fan of the game that will never really matter. I would venture to say, even if you don’t understand the sport, you will at least resonate with the life lessons I mention in this article. Now… as I write this article, The Chicago Cubs have earned their way to the World Series for the first time in 71 years! I will admit that this team has always had my support in the playoffs because of how severe an underdog they have been. Plus, it has been over 100 years since the Cubs won the championship. All that aside, with baseball season coming to an end, what can baseball teach you about life, even if you’ve never played? Life Lessons from Baseball The apparent lesson from the […]

The Sharing Economy ~ The rule of one to many to one.

The shared economy of one may be a new phrase but its impact has been around for a long time. First, a riddle… “How can you throw an object so that it stops traveling away from you, changes direction, and returns to you without hitting anything?” The Sharing Economy The sharing economy is making an incredible come back with the popularity of some companies you may have heard of (AirBNB, Ubër, GoFundMe.org). While these companies are on the rise, they are using a concept on which communities have been built for millennia. The idea is simple, bring your goods to a central location, take what you need, and make the rest available to those who can benefit from it. Of course, in a capitalist economy, we have to charge you for it. 😉 The Economy of One […]

Do deadlines actually work? There is one simple trick…

I recently wondered to myself, “are deadlines helpful?” I may have shared with you before that I’ve been an entrepreneur for over 16 years… I’m not sure if I have conveyed how difficult that is at times. The most difficult part of it all is the solitude in which most things are done. And, not because it gets lonely, but because there is likely no one to hold me accountable. In a very transparent conversation with myself I asked, “Do deadlines increase productivity?” Nope… The primary reason I concluded this was because the deadlines were ones that I created for myself, and the likelihood is that no one else even knew they existed. For example, I have a hard due date on every article for the website; Monday at 9:30 EST the article is published. […]

How to ask for help… that dirty four letter word.

“I need your help” If you’ve joined my mailing list, like so many people are quickly doing, then you’ve likely received an email from me saying, “I need your help.” And, if you received that email, then you will see most of the principles I want to share with you in this article.  While there is no single best way to ask for help, there are some things that should always be considered. With that, here is how I ask for help. Know what you need help with The worst thing you can do is ask for someone’s help and not know what you need help with. It is important to note that you may not specifically know what you need help with, but you should know what you are working toward. So, even if you […]