Desires vs goals ~ Do you know why your desires are failing as goals?

Goals vs Desires I think far too often we confuse desires as goals and almost allow them to take shape as the same thing. They are not. Desire: a strong feeling of wanting to have something or wishing for something to happen; Goal: the object of a person’s ambition or effort; With that, I may desire a certain outcome but my goal may be something completely different. My desire may even be a byproduct of the necessary (big picture) goal I have designed. What is the practical application of this… My goal may be to work in the medical field. I may confuse that with my desire to be a doctor because I’ve glorified doctors in the medical field but I have no real intentions on pursuing all that it takes to be a doctor. I’m fascinated with […]

How to put an end to or stop complaining

I could easily just complain here and say, “Man I wish people would stop complaining so much.” Instead, I’ll choose to ask a question that may actually lead to the outcome I wanted anyway. The interesting thing is, I only really got this after listening to my son complain about every… little… thing… in his 5 year old world. It seems like whenever there is something that he wants, rather than ask about it our try to understand it more, he just complains about not having it or not being able to do it. Imagine, a beautiful 75 degree day, the wind is gently blowing, birds are singing, kids are playing… In comes my awesome son… “Dad, I never get to go outside and play like the other kids.” Dude… really? Now, instead of me granting […]

These results reward procrastination… but can they be good?

Most people only ask, “How can I stop procrastinating?” You probably won’t hear a lot of people talking about the rewards of procrastination because the habit comes with such a negative stigma. For the most part, it is a pretty bad habit when you consider the impacts outside of someone’s personal reward. I would think if we looked a little closer at the rewards we can understand how, why, and when to break the habit and move strategically toward our personal definition of success. You probably won’t hear a lot of people talking about the rewards of procrastination because the habit comes with such a negative stigma. For the most part, it is a pretty bad habit when you consider the impacts outside of someone’s personal reward. I would think if we looked a little closer at the […]