Success from the start – On Goals: Part 2

The greatest benefit of setting goals isn’t achieving them. It’s the process that you must go through and the person you become in order to achieve your goal. – Jim Rohn I have said before that we need to be more in love with the process than the prize. The quote above from Jim Rohn illustrates why that is so important. If you are setting good goals, then you are forcing yourself to change in order to reach them. It isn’t that you have to become a new person, just better the person you are today. If you have any goals, then you have intention to achieve them. I want for you to have intention and expectation. The things we cover below are going to help with that. Let’s find success from the start. The […]

If perception is reality, you are responsible for shaping it.

We often hear phrases like “perception is reality” that contradict other phrases like “things aren’t always what they seem.” What do they mean though? And which is more accurate? There are different schools of thought on the matter from realists, to optimists, to absolutists. Each of those hold principles that will force you to interpret the phrases differently. Allow me to make an argument without defining it by any particular title. First, perception. Perception is defined as the ability to see, hear, or become aware of something through the senses. With that, perception is far more than just what you see. Instead, how you interpret your experience with, and perspective of, a person or situation will shape how you perceive it to be. Perception is how we understand things to be. When you consider perception as your […]

Do deadlines actually work? There is one simple trick…

I recently wondered to myself, “are deadlines helpful?” I may have shared with you before that I’ve been an entrepreneur for over 16 years… I’m not sure if I have conveyed how difficult that is at times. The most difficult part of it all is the solitude in which most things are done. And, not because it gets lonely, but because there is likely no one to hold me accountable. In a very transparent conversation with myself I asked, “Do deadlines increase productivity?” Nope… The primary reason I concluded this was because the deadlines were ones that I created for myself, and the likelihood is that no one else even knew they existed. For example, I have a hard due date on every article for the website; Monday at 9:30 EST the article is published. […]

Get started: You should definitely cross the line

Crossing the line is relative… I read an interesting post on Facebook a few days ago from 2010 and it read: Often it is harder to cross the starting line than the finish line. Granted, I wrote it. But, when I saw it again it spoke directly to me. The list I have of things I want to do is long… really long. In contrast, the list of things I started on is incredibly short. Of course, the reasons vary from resources to motivation to fear. And interestingly enough, the first article I wrote on this website was about procrastination. Why is the line relative? Everything in life has a starting line. Whether it be a specific time or a specific action, there is a starting line for everything you’ve done and everything that has […]

Don’t practice until you get it right. Practice until you can’t get it wrong.

“Don’t practice until you get it right. Practice until you can’t get it wrong.” That statement is one that I heard echoed when told stories of how the greats in our lifetime prepared… When you hear the story of Michael Jordan taking 1000 free throws in practice it wasn’t because he wanted to see what his average was. It was because he wanted to improve his average. He took 1000 shots to lock in the mechanics of making a shot; to almost automate his success by know only what success felt like. Perhaps you’ve heard the sentiment in the quote in a different way. Maybe something like, “practice makes permanent.” My friend Matt Trainor said, “tomorrow’s battles are won in today’s practice.” How does this practice apply to you? Maybe you’re not an aspiring athlete. […]

How to earn respect as a leader… and common mistakes demanding it.

How do you earn respect as a leader or friend? What does it even mean to command respect? I can at least say, it doesn’t just happen by accident and it is very easy to make the mistake of trying to demand respect. <-totally different. I’m sure you know, or at least have seen, someone who shows up and everyone kind of starts paying attention. Not the person that is super charismatic, though. I’m talking about the person that has your Aretha Franklin type of r-e-s-p-e-c-t. It’s no accident. While it may seem some folks have it naturally built into their personality, we all have to be very mindful of what it takes because it is so easy to lose respect. I have said for a very long time that there is a detrimental difference between […]

Commitment vs compliance ~ The best leaders exemplify commitment

I remember the commitment my father had to teaching me to ride my bicycle. And I’m currently teaching my son so I get to see this story from both sides. Riding a bike is super simple; keep peddling and don’t fall. But, as simple as it seems, having someone with you as you master it makes it so much easier. Sometimes that is the major variable of commitment over compliance. If I told my son to go outside and ride his bike every day, I’m sure he will eventually get it; albeit possibly in some unorthodox way. However, if I asked him to come outside with me so we could practice riding everyday, the likelihood is that he will be way more enthusiastic, gain from the benefit of my encouragement and experience (I’ve hit a few parked […]

The Law of Micro Commitments ~ and why they are super important!

Question? Will you make a commitment to press one of the share buttons below if you learn anything or find anything interesting in this article? Yes? Perfect! The power of micro-commitments I hate running… but I have to do it. And, while I tried everything I could to commit to running, I struggled with finding the right motivation to get outside and run 2 miles a couple days each week. The thing that I found out was that it wasn’t my lack of understanding or motivation, it was that my commitment was too big! I was way too focussed on the overall impact and my disdain for running so I would get in my own way before I ever started. I decided that instead of making the huge commitment of running the distance, I would make the tiny commitment […]

How to establish credibility among friends and others

Seriously though, are you a credible person? Do you ever stop and even ask yourself… “How do I know if I’m a credible person?” And then… What are you credible for? What is your credibility? The word credible comes from the latin “credo” or, I believe. When people consider you, what is it exactly that they believe? And how can you influence their belief toward how you would like to be known? I may be able to help with that. The difficult part may be earning the credibility that you actually desire. It may be that getting people to see you how you would like to be seen may be the more difficult task. Often, I am told that people think I’m a mean person. In my eyes, I’m likely one of the nicest, and […]

How to be more curious

Curious not creative I used to think of myself as a very creative person but I realized I was wrong. While it sounds glorious to be a creative, what I found out was that I’m far more curious and willing to explore possibilities than I am able to just create something good. Then I started to wonder, I think far more people should examine why we behave and think the way we instinctively do. We should challenge the status quo. We should be less afraid to question the norm. We should be more confident in exploring our own curiosity instead of accepting the results of someone else exploring their curiosity. Rejections I believe one of the things that keeps us from exploring our curiosity is the fear of being wrong or being rejected. I’m not […]