How to get clarity in life

I think one of the most common feelings when trying to achieve something difficult or new to you is the feeling that you lack clarity. For me, having been an entrepreneur for 16 years has magnified my need for clarity in various areas of my business and personal life. There is one over arching secret to gaining clarity that I’ve found: The even lesser known thing is that clarity is merely perspective. Generally, it’s a perspective that is not the one you start out with either. Analysis Paralysis Once I realized that simple adage, I was able to get started on a lot of things that I put off because of overthinking. I would really spend hours, days, weeks, and sometimes months trying to think through all of the things I need to do in order to […]

Get started: You should definitely cross the line

Crossing the line is relative… I read an interesting post on Facebook a few days ago from 2010 and it read: Often it is harder to cross the starting line than the finish line. Granted, I wrote it. But, when I saw it again it spoke directly to me. The list I have of things I want to do is long… really long. In contrast, the list of things I started on is incredibly short. Of course, the reasons vary from resources to motivation to fear. And interestingly enough, the first article I wrote on this website was about procrastination. Why is the line relative? Everything in life has a starting line. Whether it be a specific time or a specific action, there is a starting line for everything you’ve done and everything that has […]

Don’t practice until you get it right. Practice until you can’t get it wrong.

“Don’t practice until you get it right. Practice until you can’t get it wrong.” That statement is one that I heard echoed when told stories of how the greats in our lifetime prepared… When you hear the story of Michael Jordan taking 1000 free throws in practice it wasn’t because he wanted to see what his average was. It was because he wanted to improve his average. He took 1000 shots to lock in the mechanics of making a shot; to almost automate his success by know only what success felt like. Perhaps you’ve heard the sentiment in the quote in a different way. Maybe something like, “practice makes permanent.” My friend Matt Trainor said, “tomorrow’s battles are won in today’s practice.” How does this practice apply to you? Maybe you’re not an aspiring athlete. […]

How to establish credibility among friends and others

Seriously though, are you a credible person? Do you ever stop and even ask yourself… “How do I know if I’m a credible person?” And then… What are you credible for? What is your credibility? The word credible comes from the latin “credo” or, I believe. When people consider you, what is it exactly that they believe? And how can you influence their belief toward how you would like to be known? I may be able to help with that. The difficult part may be earning the credibility that you actually desire. It may be that getting people to see you how you would like to be seen may be the more difficult task. Often, I am told that people think I’m a mean person. In my eyes, I’m likely one of the nicest, and […]

How to be more curious

Curious not creative I used to think of myself as a very creative person but I realized I was wrong. While it sounds glorious to be a creative, what I found out was that I’m far more curious and willing to explore possibilities than I am able to just create something good. Then I started to wonder, I think far more people should examine why we behave and think the way we instinctively do. We should challenge the status quo. We should be less afraid to question the norm. We should be more confident in exploring our own curiosity instead of accepting the results of someone else exploring their curiosity. Rejections I believe one of the things that keeps us from exploring our curiosity is the fear of being wrong or being rejected. I’m not […]

Desires vs goals ~ Do you know why your desires are failing as goals?

Goals vs Desires I think far too often we confuse desires as goals and almost allow them to take shape as the same thing. They are not. Desire: a strong feeling of wanting to have something or wishing for something to happen; Goal: the object of a person’s ambition or effort; With that, I may desire a certain outcome but my goal may be something completely different. My desire may even be a byproduct of the necessary (big picture) goal I have designed. What is the practical application of this… My goal may be to work in the medical field. I may confuse that with my desire to be a doctor because I’ve glorified doctors in the medical field but I have no real intentions on pursuing all that it takes to be a doctor. I’m fascinated with […]